Recently my husband's parents told him he needed to tell his grandparents about his non-belief . . . or they would. Forcing my husband into a corner (not what I would call very "christian-like"), not only left my husband under immense emotional duress, but led him to have some heated discussions with his father over the phone. Why hurt his grandparents out of the blue, who are old, and live in another state in blissful ignorance? Yes, his sister is getting married in the temple five months from now, but she knows, so why not get to that when we get to that?
His father kept telling him there are "consequences to his actions" and cited the dogma that every Mormon holds, that they would no longer be a family in the eternities, and so the familial relationships on earth are rendered meaningless. Again, this codependent dogma, this vile, putrid, manipulative doctrine is putting happiness outside of Marcus's own parents' realm, onto the decisions and beliefs of others. i.e. Their eternal happiness is ruined because they can't spend eternity with their non-believing son.
This inspired me to illustrate how Mormon doctrine works to retain its members: